I’m pretty sure deciding on a business name is a lot like child birth. A little less messy (okay, a whole lot less messy) and a different kind of pain, but similar in struggle. It took a lot of time--- starting and stopping, list making and pondering a hundred different words and word combos. I wanted to have a name that really meant what I wanted to convey to my health coaching clients and to anyone who might click on my website. The word “well” kept coming back to me so I knew I needed to use it somehow. To me, it is a truly authentic, thoughtful answer to the question, “How are you doing?”….. “I am doing well, thanks.” It just sounds better than, “I’m fine.” Or “Gggrreat!”. Living well doesn’t mean living perfect. And it certainly means more than just existing.
Thus, the birth of Laura’s Livewell.
I asked myself, “What does it mean to live well?”. It will differ for everyone. What works for me may not work for you and vice versa. However, there are several overarching themes that can be applied to everyone…..in no particular order, because I don’t play favorites. Actually, I do but my kids don’t need to know that.
Let’s start with the food we put in our mouths every day, shall we? More than ever, I am aware how food effects how I feel every day. EVERY DAY. Read more about my story here. The food we eat affects our digestion, skin, mood and sleep for starters. When our digestion is off (sluggish or running to the bathroom at a moment’s notice), that should be the first clue that our body is not enjoying what we are putting it in (sorry beer and cheetos). If our digestion is off, that can manifest in crazy mood swings because you just don’t feel the greatest. I have lived through those mood swings and slight depression because I couldn’t figure out what the hell was wrong with me and I felt like a prisoner in my own body. I was always wondering if I was going to have a good day or a bad day based on my gut. Do yourself a favor and start tuning into the clues your body is giving you. Then experiment a bit with your food and see if you notice a shift over time. Need help? Contact me. You can’t possibly live your best life when you feel like sh@#.
Living well, for me, has come to mean living authentically, no pretenses and no BS. Knowing exactly who I am, not in relation to anyone else. Meaning, who am I if I don’t define myself by being someone’s wife, mom, daughter, sister? That has taken a whole lotta work (shout out to my therapist) and introspection on my part. It’s about finding your voice in this crazy world and not being afraid to use it. Also, it’s about letting go of what others think of you. My favorite mantra is, “it’s none of my business what others think of me”. I repeat that often when I feel that insecurity and worry kicking in because it often does. And comparing yourself to others? That’s a prescription for doom. Living well = living authentically = realizing that who you are is enough.
Living well means moving your body and being grateful for being able to do so. Try to just be in awe of your body one day, all that it can do without you even thinking about it. Exercise because you love your body, not because you hate it. Exercise releases some feel-good endorphins, or as a good friend calls it, “getting the crazy out”. It is an amazing stress reliever and anti-depressant. Having trouble committing to some YOU-time? Try this: on Sunday, look ahead at your week and plan the days you are going to exercise. Put them on your calendar like you would any other important appointment. Then honor yourself by keeping that appointment. I know I don’t let anything get in the way of my hair appointments, right? So why would I let anything get in the way of improving my physical being and mental health? Performing a workout that you enjoy or that pushes you out of your comfort zone is key as well.
Having a spiritual connection, whether it be God, nature or some other higher power, is incredibly important. It connects you to your inner-most, true being and at the same time provides a place to cast your worries and your gratitude. It’s a place for calm reflection, hope and joy. I turn to God in everything, good and bad, and it provides a sense of peace that I experience no where else. Finding that connection in your own life can truly be life-changing if you let it. Find that spiritual relationship that works for you, whatever floats your boat or makes you walk on water (bad pun intended).
The one thing I hope that my personal experiences will bring you is an awareness of your own health and lifestyle and empower you to positive changes. All the small changes will add up to a big impact in your wellness. Choose ONE thing you can start doing today and when that becomes habit, choose another and so on.
Keep tuned in for the next couple months as I dive a little deeper into each of these topics and share what I have learned in my own messy journey.
Until then, be well my friends